Articles about spiritual abuse, abuse in the church, and hypocrisy… divorced by your church?
Happy Promise Keeper Public Rebuke & Record
Running the Race & Fighting the Fight
Making a Molehill Out of a Mountain
A Look at Why Abuse Victims Stop Attending Church
Being Reconciled to the Church After Hurt
When the Church Assaults the Sanctity of Life
What the Bible Says About Abusive Pastoral Authority
Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment of Sodom
Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment to Church Leaders
Floating in Pots of Sick Irony
Are We Ruining God’s Image By Speaking Out?
Does God Need Us to Protect His Reputation?
The Christian Personna — articles about how Christians are perceived by everyone else.
God’s Call for Justice and Right Judgment
Abuse Allegations in Christian Homes for Troubled Teens
Former Hephzibah House Students Continue to Raise Awareness
Mrs. Williams of Hephzibah House Writes About Women
Ron Williams of Hephzibah House Writes About Discipline
Raising Awareness About Abusive “Homes” for Kids
Government Regulation of Churches
The Church and Political Power
The Church, Homosexuality, Sodom & Gomorrah
Teachings of Abuse in the Church
ARTICLES ABOUT SPIRITUAL ABUSE
Abuse in the Christian Home
This set of articles is a great place to start.
Victim or Survivor Series
These articles can be read in any order.
The Word – Power of the Tongue, Spirit of Murder, & Separating from Abuse, series
What Does the Bible Really Say? — Wives Submit
What Does the Bible Really Say? — Don’t Put Asunder
Why Do Children NOT Tell About Abuse?
How Can I Honor an Abusive Parent?
The Issue at the Heart of Domestic Violence
Blessing for the Ultimate Sacrifice in an Abusive Marriage
What If I Think My Spouse is Abusive? Question/Answer
Verbal Abuse and How to Recognize It
Has Economic Downturn Caused Increase in Domestic Violence?
The Dangers of Defending Yourself
Is It Godly to Deny Our Feelings in Abuse?
The Breastplate of Righteousness
Is It Rape When Your Husband Does It?
Is a Lap Dance at a Strip Club Adultery?
Domestic Violence and Stockholm Syndrome
Is Domestic Abuse Just a Satanic Deception?
Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, Patriarchy and Multigenerational Faithfulness
The Neatnik and the “Relaxed” Housekeeper
“I Told My Secret, and The Church…”
Are We Ruining God’s Image By Speaking Out?
Rick Warren and Saddleback Church on Domestic Violence
Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on Abuse
Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on Divorce
Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on “Miserable Marriage”
Theology of an Abusive Marriage
Is “Fireproof” Helpful for Abusive Marriages?
Why Pastors Won’t Stand Against Abuse
Pastoral Denial: What it Says and Why it Matters
Abuse in the Church? Be Ye Warmed and Filled!
Why a Short Sentence for Offenders Cannot Be “Enough”
Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment to Church Leaders
Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment of Sodom
Floating in Pots of Sick Irony
Clergy Responses to Domestic Violence
A Look at Why Abuse Victims Stop Attending Church
When the Church Assaults the Sanctity of Life
A Christian Counselor Writes About Abuse in Christian Marriages
A True Story About Abuse in a Christian Home
I Wish I Had Known to Call the Police
How Abuse Affects a Child, Part I
“He Taught Me How to Fly – How Abuse Affects a Child, Part 2
Is Abuse Caused by Demon Possession?
God Answers Prayer in Abusive Marriages
Verbal Rage in Marriage and Parenting
CDC Links Domestic Violence to Health Problems
A Preacher’s View of Domestic Violence
IT IS TIME TO BEGIN SPEAKING: The Church and Domestic Violence
Does God Want Me to Stay in an Abusive Marriage?
Fact-ional Christianese Marriage Menders
Do We Think Enough of Marriage to Respond to Domestic Abuse?
One Man’s Story of Being An Abuser
Respect and Equality in Marriage
THE Biblical Grounds for Divorce
What the Bible Says About Divorce, Series
Sticks & Stones: Why Verbal Abuse Kills, Series
Is Dr. James Dobson’s Advice to Abuse Victims Dangerous, Series
What Happens When Someone is Sexually Assaulted, Series
What Happens When the Church Helps
Basics
The Hidden Lock in the Door to Life’s Answers
In the Beginning — God Created Male and Female
http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/01/02/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-christian-church/
Negative behavior
My comments
I have seen a whole city of proud, abusive pastors, who felt that they could not be touched, till I had arrived at God’s request..
Once publically exposed next even the government acted quickly to pull their tax free status, stopped their right to issue donations reciepts and the door of the worst church now was closed forever.. all of the pastors were laid off too..
Public exposure and examplary prosecution of the unrepentant guilty persons serves everyone’s best interest..
“Those whom I love I chasten and rebuke as well”
God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… and God will make the door at the right time for you to leave it as well.. trust Him.
ONE OF THE MOST COMMON, POPULAR TOPICS, SEARCHES ON THE INTERNET is can a Christian next get divorced and remarried, and the simple answer is no! but wait do not stop reading yet.. if you are married, living to a demon, a control freak, a liar, a lazy good for nothing abusive person then please now do immediately get out of the marriage, do get an immediate separation.. and this not the kind of advice you would expect from a preacher of peace and love, but I am telling you all this for our own good, and you can thank me later.. and maybe next the still good for nothing bum, lousy spouse, he or she will wake up as to what she is really like and they may try to get help to change herself, himself.. but meanwhile don’t feel guilty about the peace you now have in your life.. By the way make sure first you are not the creepy, a good for nothing spouse yourself otherwise by your actions you will be doing your own spouse a great, great service.
One of the thing that bothers me about allowing someone to walk over me, to verbally abuse me, is where do I draw the line next, put a stop to it.. so I tend to stop it as soon as I see it instead…not a door mat to walk over.. one of the best ways is to have nothing to do with the abuser anymore..
God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… nor in an abusive church, or with an abusive pastor as well..
In the first week I was in a new church I immediately saw that the pastor himself was an abusive, control freak pastor and I did not remain there too long..
>>The church is .. evicting … members who don’t “walk the line.”
The 3 major most common reasons, but not valid often it seems, for Church eviction in Canada that I have noted are
-refusal to submit to the pastor’s demands
– if you have suddenly became poor, are out of work, or refuse to support the tithe.
– if you ask someone to repent of their sins
Jer. 23:14 ..as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah.
Cities that were literally destroyed next..
I must add that when the unrepentant church leaders, church members resort to physical assaults, put their hands on the abused persons that next death often shortly follows upon these still even unrepentant persons… for God himself does not accept physical, verbal, human rights abuses lightly
I have seen it often, unexpected, sudden death of these guilty persons in the church
Many people here relatedly forget the terrible price that even Apostle Paul still paid after he was saved for his previous physical abuse of Christians.. he was buffeted..suffered..
Well the proper Biblical step is first for the Christian person to ask the offender to repent..
The second proper step if they do not repent is to have 2 witness that you have asked them to repent again.. but you do not need any witness to support your allegations..
The third proper step is to inform the rest of body of Christ their unrepentant sin
Now God is free to act and may ask that you bring it to the proper authorities
I have noted to someone recently that the New testament and Old Testament do not allow a wife to divorce her husband, only the male can divorce, but she can separate.
and i had also noted that the new testament specifically indicates that a wife can influence her husband by her good behavior.. the same is not said about the husband..
Now the guilt of being married again after a divorce, is normal for God still does hate divorce… 90 percent of persons who remarry after a divorce are likley to divorce again too.. likley they were also a part of the problem of course. And just cause some people stay married does not mean they were, are more spiritual now too..
In generally in the more liberal society of Canada both the wife and the children tend to have much more freedom, rights, make their own decisions, over many other countries and as a result the culture shock is a very real problem for some new immigrant spouses where the husband was used to being obeyed, and being the sole head of the home thus it’s not altogether uncommon for some of the new immigrant home situations to become unacceptably violent.
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