(sigh) It’s happening again.
It happened the first time when I was just starting to really study rope bondage. I studied it from the photography and rigging of Ian Rath of Fetish Nation, and occasionally through the bondage sets by Kelly Lind. I paid for membership to both sites, for as long as I could afford it, and looked at them over and over.
Really, I did. No, I was not wanking; while I can appreciate a good visual as much as the next lover-of-female-forms, I don’t – can’t – get off on visual porn, photographic or video. I am entertained by them, but when I want to get off, I head straight for literotica, click on the “nonconsent-reluctance” tab, and away I go…
But I digress. I was looking and looking – I think the particular model was in purple latex, in a very harsh arm-binder lifting up in strappado – and suddenly I realize that I was not seeing the model at all. I was focusing so much on the ropes that I didn’t see the beautiful woman.
It happened again. Via Catalina Loves I found my way to January Seraph. Fine, independent fetish model, and kudos to her for also having the toughest alternafetish model around, Apnea, on her site too. While going through the preview (you should, too, you might run into some old friends) I came to the preview pic you see here, and clicked through (kind of like the people who say “Oooh! Shiny!” I said “Oooh! Rope!”
I looked at the picture, and thought “Why would she put this up as a preview? It’s such a basic chest harness, and just a two column tie…there’s hardly any bondage there at all!”
I hang my head as I write this, because it took a full five seconds before my libido came roaring up out of my lizard brain and said “THERE’S A FUCKING INCREDIBLY HOT WOMAN LYING ON THAT TABLE, WHO LOOKS LIKE SHE’S EAGER FOR YOU TO FUCK HER BRAINS OUT, YOU OVERANALYTICAL SHIT!”
Yes. Almost five seconds to remember that. I’ve been working too hard, I think, on classes for Shibaricon and Spankfestival and my other jobs…and suddenly the rope and knots have hidden the true purpose of What It Is We Do: beauty, connection, intent.
Let’s all try and remember that, ok? And remind each other, on occasion?
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