Life moves so fast that we find it hard to catch up at times. When are faced with challenges regarding our relationships, or we lose a relationship, we are scared of building new ones. We are scared not because of the uncertainty, but because we keep looking at the scars from the past. We are so stuck with the fear of the past, that it has prevented us from accepting new realities.
I have a friend who always talked about how love made her lose control of who she is, when she got heartbroken, she became scared of falling in love or accepting love. Healing is a long process and that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. It isn’t you who is incapable of loving again, it is the fear of committing to something you are scared will fail, so why bother with the heartbreak? One thing we need to understand is, we need relationships. A friend betrayed you, don’t mean others will…so why treats others badly as a reaction to an action of one?
Instead of dwelling on the fear of the downs of relationships, why don’t you focus on the beauty of the journey? Happiness is not an end, it is the process that is fueled by faith, a leap, a seed of trust. Even if the new relationships do not work, we should be grateful for the memories. Happiness is always true and it will be an error to say ‘true happiness’.
Birds don’t just stay in their nests, even if the sky is filled with uncertainty and danger, they fly and when they fall, they rise. Life is too short for us not to pursue happiness. Being angry with our past, only makes us bitter.
STORIES WITHOUT MORALS
THE NIGHTS BY MARY OSARETIN OMOREGIE(MAJU)
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This is one of those nights, times the future appears in all its vague glory. I look into the memories of yesterday which feels too distant to be remembered as the crickets sing to the tune of the dark. It felt like my soul, I want to feel this way forever, feel the happiness that comes with innocence, I want to laugh hard without care and I want to experience love which I can trust. Growing up, I was told to dream without barriers, no one told me about the ‘buts’.
At ten, I have to leave the dollhouse and think about building my future.
At twenty, My future becomes my present and I have to start living it. Anything below their expectations is a failure.
At thirty, I become the bitter woman who spent her early years trying to keep up with the expectations.
At forty, I no longer trust opinions as I want to make the past my future.
At fifty, I become the cool aunty the younger ones are warned never to associate with as she is a bad company.
At sixty, I die, not of the disease the doctor diagnosed, but of loneliness and regrets of time I can never relive.
“Do not forgive” “ I forbid you a rebel, have you seen any of your mates doing it?”
I believe life gets complicated the more we try to please everyone and live for others without enjoying the memories.
I choose the childlike innocence,I choose not to be lonely when I’m not alone.
I stared back at the artwork on the wall with a smile on my face. I have the fortitude………..
HEART-TO-HEART WITH MAJU.
Hello Maju, My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time. I lost my virginity to him and the spark in the relationship has not been there for some months now. I went to a party last year with my friends and I met someone new, we got talking and I feel so much attracted to him, on one of my visits to his house, we had sex and now I’m pregnant. My boyfriend proposed to me last week and I don’t know what to do. I can’t pin the baby on my boyfriend and I’m scared the new guy might reject the child. Abortion is not an option for me.