Kailan dapat i-let go ang isang tao?

1. Kailan dapat i-let go ang isang tao? Explain.

Yung totoo, hindi ko alam kung kelan! Kelan nga ba dapat? Ang pagkakaalam ko, sa oras na malaman mong iniwan ka na nya, na ayaw na nya sayo or na iniiwasan ka na nya, siguro dapat mag let go ka na agad.  Yun yong expected sa atin eh, yun yong ideal..yun sana!

Kaso hindi ako naniniwalang dapat agad-agad magle-let go ka na. Mag-let go ka kapag handa ka na. Yung tipong tanggap mo na na wala na. Mag-let go ka kasi ramdam mo na kailangan mo na at hindi  dahil yun ang “norm” at lalong hindi dahil utos ng iba na mag-let go ka na. Hindi kasi minamadali. Letting go is a process and in this process you learn so much.  ‘Pag nagmamadali ka kasi, may mga lessons na pwede mong ma-miss. Well I guess it’s not how long you’ve let go. It’s what you learn from the process of letting go. Kasi yung lessons na yun ang dadalhin mo at gagamitin mo to make good on your next relationship.

2. Umiyak ka na ba dahil sa letting go? Share your story. Short lang.

Kapagka ganitong usapan, napapahaba ako eh. hahaha. Pero sige, short lang.

Oo, umiyak na ako. Hindi dahil sa nag-let go na ako but because I knew from the very start that I have to let go… But until now, I just can’t.  Masakit mag-let go kung hindi mo alam bakit ka iniwan. Masakit yung bigla-bigla ka nalang iniwan sa ere.  Masakit mag let go at mag move on sa isang relasyong walang closure. Masakit kasi sa loob-loob mo, baka may pag-asa pa (Baliw ako diba?) haha.

3. How did you cope up with that?

I’m still in the process of letting go of him, of my thoughts of him.  Well,  i do overtime sa work, reading books, painting… keeping my self busy. Para kahit pano mabawasan yung time na umiiyak ako because of him.

4. Gaano ka katagal bago naka-move on?

I don’t know, i can’t measure yet. Nag momove-on pa kasi ako hanggang ngayon! hahaha

5. Message to that person na ni-let go mo.

Hi!

It’s been quite a while but apparently, as you read this message you’ll think that I’m still not over you. You’re right! You played with a stubborn woman kaya siguro despite telling me not to bother you again, I would still have the guts to do it…..

Poy all i remember is a loving you who only had an amnesia and unfortunately forgot about me. That’s why it’s so hard to just let you go and move on.I don’t know if I should thank you for atleast making it less painful for me. I did’t know until I realized that it’s even harder to forget and let go of you because a part of me will always wait for that  moment that you’ll get back your lost memories and eventually remember that you once loved me, that you still love me…

There are so many times I tried to communicate with you again. How I love to hear the real reasons! And how I also fear knowing the true ones. I’m afraid to hear you saying that there was no amnesia but a “you” who only choose to forget me and not love me anymore. Or maybe a “you” who would  confess that I was never really loved at all. But at some point, I realize I need to hear the worst reasons and feel the most painful feelings for me to finally realize that I need to move forward without you. The I need to let you go..

So please tell me. Let me know the truth. Even if you know it will hurt me, just tell me.

(Pasesnya natagalan, nahirapan ako isingit sa work saka natagalan ako kung ano talaga gusto ko sabihin sa ex ko. Pag pasensyahan mo nalang katangahan ko dito 🙂 saka paki ayos nalang ng grammar! haha)

Maraming salamat Little Lily sa pagsagot sa aking mga katanungan. Ano nga ba ang masasabi ko sa kaso mo? Hmmm… Magbibigay na lamang ang ng excerpt from my previous articles.

“PAIN. That’s the feeling that wrapped around my whole being. I just wanted to sleep or die for a moment. Maybe just to ease what I am feeling right now. Lord, give me the courage, the strength for me to keep going and to continue standing still.” – A Prayer of Letting Go

“Kung hindi naman maging maayos ang pangalawang pagkakataon at muli siyang humingi ng pangatlo o pang-apat na pagkakataon, please lang wag mo na pag-isipan pa ang sagot. Isang malaking HINDI lang ang isagot mo. P-E-R-I-O-D.  Maawa ka sa sarili mo. Tama na ang dalawang beses na saktan ka ng isang tao kasi kapag pinaabot mo pa ng tatlo, apat o kahit ilan pa iyan ay pagpapakat*nga nai yon. Tanggapin mo na lang ang katotohanang wala na talaga. Just let go. Move on. Live alone (for the meantime). Love again (with someone else).”  – Second Chance VS Letting Go

Newton’s First Law of Motion – A body at rest will remain at rest, and a body in motion will remain in motion unless it is acted upon by an external force. Doctor Eamer’s First Law of Emotion – Okey na sana ang relationship ninyo kaso biglang nagkaroon ng external force. – The Science of Letting Go and Holding On

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