Day 2 The Great Sea

Last night we frolicked in the sea. There is no more descriptive word than “frolic.”  There really isn’t. haha.

We flew into Ben Guiron. A rough flight, really. We survived the Israeli customs check only to wait for one team member who was delayed an hour behind the rest of us. After the 20 some hours of traveling the delay was wearing, but from there, the exhaustion seemed to mix with the hope and excitement that was our collective heart that first night as we piled on the bus to travel north to Netanya.

We loaded our luggage on the bus, arrived at the hotel, unloaded our luggage, and checked in. After finding our rooms of safe refuge, we went to dinner… most of us, i suspect, were a little dazed from travel and anticipation. I do not remember the dinner conversation much, only the table to my far left that was filled with Jewish and non-Jewish students from the University. I knew this in part from their attire and the other part from eavesdropping on their conversation (in my defense, they were boisterous!). They fought passionately over the effects of the Holocaust on the Jewish peoples who suffered that time. I say “suffered” telling my position in the debate, because I was horrified to hear these students suggesting the trials, the horrific, inhumane treatment of these people was not oppressive—that those who survived were stronger for the hardship and it was good in their lives. I could have cried just listening as my own heart fails to reconcile to any heavenly or earthly understanding of that genocide. It burned in my heart to speak into this, though I knew I had neither the right nor the answer to speak.

Leaving dinner, we conspired together to sneak out and see the ocean; this magnificent body which is spoken of in the inspired Word of God. After we had all changed and done what we needed to do, we met again in the hotel lobby to charge the sea as a group.

As we burst through the doors, the front runners seemed to suddenly look back to me and ask which way to go. I am not sure that it happened all at once, but certain that it caught my attention in an instant, and it tickled me that the natural leaders amongst us had so organically taken the role of headship, but had to look back to me and ask which way…funny to me that they had without communicating with one another all come to the conclusion that I would know! Ha! I made a good show of it, looking first out toward the horizon, and then to my left and to my right; then I quite confidently declared the Mediterranean to be to our right. Just as quickly as I had spoken it, the leaders took the course and led us all that way. I was pleased-stupid with myself, just wishing I had a friend to turn to and laugh with; i think my mouth gaped a little and I certainly looked around for someone to acknowledge the moment. From behind me came a voice of truth. Mary shouted, “J, how do you know where the ocean is? You haven’t ever been here before!” I laughed aloud as I shouted back, “I know, I am just guessing!”

We all strolled to the boardwalk together. When we got to where it seemed the entrance should have been, there was no admittance. My heart sank! I so wanted this experience with this group on our first night. I longed to dig my toes in the sand and have the wind blow my hair with that sweet sweet ocean smell. I began to settle with the disappointment, but a mild indignation rose in my heart. I spoke aloud into the murmurs of the scorners, “no, it is the ocean, it cannot be closed!” I pressed forward in the group, towards the front, to see for myself. It looked as if the path was closed, just as they had said. but I tagged one of the men running in the forefront and said, “come on, we will run ahead and scout it out for the group, like Caleb and Joshua!” He skeptically said, “we may not return with a favorable report as they did.” I playfully hit his arm and yelled, “come on, you wouldn’t let a girl run off by herself in the dark in this unfamiliar city would you?” He chased behind me and when we got to the bottom of the path it led into a local bar. Right before the bar there was an open gate that led down steps to the stairs, which could not be seen from the boardwalk.

We raced in, turning back to usher our group down the path. I took off my shoes and ran to the water. After a while it seemed that the group should have been caught up and joining us, but they had thought we were in the bar and tried to follow us in there. Not knowing, I ran back to the steps to find them just as they were being kicked out! I led them down to the beach. It was such a freeing release after the stress and confusion of travel. Looking at my sojourners I saw a release to God that was so pure, a true letting go –if only for the moment as the wind off the waves hit our faces.

One woman shared with me after the experience that the sheer size of the ocean, the greatness of its expanse, and the force of the waves slapped her with the reality of who He is. It was so powerful to be there, and we were all so small in comparison, standing alone together in the sands of the Bible’s Great Sea.

I played in the winter-cold waters and nearly soaked my blue jeans. We took photos, and eventually felt again the weariness of our two days of travel. We headed back to the hotel.

Some of us seemed to not want the experience of our first day in country to end. There was this “near” bond between us, and an almost-desperation to soak it all in. We seemed to have this fear that it was passing without a real recognition of its significance.

I sat at the bar with a slice of cheesecake. I listened to the most beautiful testimony of the Lord’s faithfulness from one of the Saints I traveled with. She spoke of her experience adopting a child from China; she and her husband were denied a child because of their race! I felt absolutely indignant, but as my imagination wandered to thoughts of litigation, she continued to explain that there was nothing they could do about it. The rejection had come from China and there was no American law that could dictate to another county the rightness of our nondiscriminatory practices. She told of how she and her husband believed in their hearts that the Lord had clearly spoken the country of China when they sought Him, and how they fought to continue in the process despite the “no’s” that they heard.

She showed me pictures and I realized they were not only the first people of their race, as citizens of the United States to ever adopt a child from China, but truly the only people of their race to adopt a child from China from anywhere in the world ever before! They fought an entire country to end a bigotry. I could feel in my spirit the closeness to a mighty work of the King, a bigness that was beyond human understanding, and it brought me near to tears.

I could not help thinking of my dear Beth, at home, mired in politics, awaiting her own child to come home for the first time from Guatemala. I wanted for her to hear the faithfulness of this family as they overcame impossibly unfair barriers, and the Faithfulness of the Lord to them as He delivered their child to them. I wanted her heart to feel the encouragement of their testimony as mine did.

I finally went bleary eyed to bed; completely romanced by and expectant of the country I would see when I woke up. 

i invited the other little old man I flirt with to my graduation. he was tickled.

*edit** i took this post down, at the request of a friend who said it was too vulnerable of me to post on the internet, but the more I have experienced since its removal, the more i feel like the lesson is intricate to my process. I want to testify, and so I am reposting the entry. I have edited out, at the counsel of my firend, the part that was most revealing. If you notice a lack of flow, know it was this part. The point of the story is not changed, just a pivitol point missing. enjoy! jhaas

Looking Like A Wedding Feast

I cannot even tell you how desperately stupid i have felt this week…or how completely blessed I have been. I find my heart is a paradox within itself.

I was thinking this afternoon about the wedding feast. And all the sudden, i think i understand. I need to jump around to tell the story so bear with me, and when you feel lost…just keep reading!

It really starts last semester…I decided that i wasnt going to walk at graduation. But, then, through the prodding of the Counseling Chair here at school–my academic advisor–I decided that I could, but i wasnt going to make a big deal about it, because I hate the pomp and circumstance! But the Lord has really been convicting me that my heart has been closed to those who want to bless me and support me. …not that it matters, but I realized that graduations are just one of those occasions in which people demonstrate love to each other. And besides, I didnt want to sit in the audience watching my friends walk and have them call my name three times like Ferris Beuler (someone reading probably knows how to spell his name! ha. that dates you!!!)!

I have really been battling the concept of INVITATIONS. I havent sent them. My family isnt coming, they just cannot afford the trip from Colorado, my grandparents in Oklahoma will send a card. My MD friends are not coming either; its just two weeks before they are all traveling up for my roommate’s wedding–and that is much more important, i didnt invite them. I have friends in Texas and Michigan and Wisconsin, but they shouldn’t really fly in just for a Davis graduation ceremony! yikes! that would be ridiculous.

well, the point isnt to sound desperate, only to demonstrate how legitimate the reasons are for the lack of attendance; it isnt really about me. But that whole process has led me to remember that there are people right here, beyond my academic advisor, who love me and are proud of me. Yes, there are people at my at-school-church that can come. It isnt even a far distance….

in this conviction, I went about to ask a few of them. PD’A said she didn’t really think she would make it, she thought something else might come up and said that she wasnt ready to commit to the date. I didnt tell her, but it wounded me in a surprising way. Her lack of interest cut so to the quick of me that I was stunned…I couldnt even tell her I was hurt…and I didnt really know what I was hurt over. I know her love for me…i do not really need a demonstration!

then the next week I asked TandLC, and I even spoke out to LC that it was important to me…which i know i didnt with PD’A. she, with complete disinterest, said that she was going to plan to be away; couldn’t miss the Franklin Graham meetings which I know can be made up on different days. And I asked, in my hurt, “couldn’t you just go to the one on the different day!” and she said that she didnt really want to.

I know that she is pulling away because I am leaving. I know that she loves me and not showing me now doesnt negate that! But I still felt desperately hurt.

Even GSJr who always attends Davis Graduation said that he thought he might head out on vacation earlier than usual this year. He isnt that interested in attending another graduation ceremony! …WHAT?! He has to go, its mandatory! Its been madatory for 20 years!

no one committed to the date. ha! What is going on? I was rejected in this so many times, i, like Job, knew it had to be God’s hand. BUT WHY?!

I began to seek Him in this… and, wow….that was where I went wrong!

He revealed that my heart was in fact the very thing i dread, a giant outer space matter-sucking black hole. I felt rejected, overlooked, misunderstood, lonely, hurt, insignificant, insecure, unworthy, unaccepted, unsupported… and on and on.

Over something I dont even really care about! How is this possible? So I began to seek Him in this too. SECOND MISTAKE! WOW!!!

I had some big disappointments this week. I have been sick since the week before Easter, and tired. I am behind in my work, and blah blah. I have been asked to put into the committees, and clubs, and jobs an unusually large amount of overtime these past two weeks….I havent had time to take care of myself at all. …which i am certain has compounded the emotion I have been steeped in!

and in this all, I have had such a unique opportunity to connect with His saints. Even at my at-school-church, where I feel so much like an “unknown” I met new people and was able to talk with people I have seen for years and never connected with… and it was wonderful, absolutely filling and lovely!

at school, I dont know if it is that I have been looking so run down lately with eye infections and exhaustion that people feel they need to encourage me, or if it is truly the Lord, speaking into the gaping-spatial hole in my heart that I have been hiding from those I love and who love me. I have received notes and cards and messages and had chats and talks…people who have just stopped and said, “jhaas, I have felt this way for years and I just felt prompted i should tell you now.” Some from people I dont really have more than acquaintanceship with… people who cannot possibly know the journey my heart has been on. And, not just the usual notes, which say, “It encourages me that you are happy!” no, …real encouragement! One girl even wrote the very phrase i used to speak-out to God –begging for Him to build a character quality into me… and another, that I was the person who had wisdom to offer who has never made her feel less than, or shameful. WHAT A GIFT, WHAT A JOY!

Others have sent testimonials… it has just brought tears to my eyes that I am so privileged to hear their hearts, both in their victories and failures. I am trusted, and none of myself, but Him… I know it is His work in my life that enables me to be consistent and loving towards them…I dare say it has even been that He shielded them from my inconsistencies!!!

But, I must confess, none of this abundant encouragement effected or filled the matter-sucking black hole in my heart. and it grew worse and worse as I went on. The more people said things that I thought should have been impacting me, the more I realized the hole was supernaturally deep.

WHAT IS THIS ABOUT?! Third wrong question for the week, and wrong only because I knew He intended to answer, and His answers are not CHEAP! this one especially came at a costly price.

I have been heading up committees and running fundraisers, running sound for conferences, traveling with the Creative Arts teams, planning workshops, trying to graduate, active in ministry, applying for jobs, having surgery, keeping friends…. and in this, i think the people i work with do not understand that they are not the only thing I am committed to. Granted, I am over committed to the point of feeling like it would help my schedule if I could figure out how to cut my bathroom breaks in half, but still…!

I ended up doing things this week that i have set boundaries against again and again, so that I wouldnt get into these tough situations. in that, I have felt like the people who pressed me, and scheduled me, in spite of my pleas to protect my class time, and bedtime, and quiet time, have just failed to consider me! And while I carried out these obligations, i felt taken advantage of, and overlooked, and uncared for… and THIS spoke right into my need, my black hole.

and boy, have I ever acted out in it.
in terrible, terrible ways.

I will be honest, because if you are still reading this marathon post, you must really LOVE me. haha.

**edit*

…and i understood, i have insatiably deep need. but really, it just fed my feeling of being rejected and overlooked and missed.

this all was just too far for me. I KNOW BETTER! I knew better than to be there, and I knew better than to ride the sled into the weeds of self-condemnation! But I did it anyway… all the while still meeting the obligations of the commitments I have made–did i mention that none of the others who were “committed” showed up? None! I felt alone and forgotten and responsible. And all the while as well, others were going OUT OF THEIR WAY to share with me that i encourage them. Question mark!

Well, I prayed, and the Lord continued to answer in this process. He clearly revealed that the rejection I have been feeling is from my parent’s perceived lack of interest in my life. It has never been that i didnt want to walk! It honestly was that i was afraid to consider it, because I couldnt bring myself to invite their rejection. If I dont want them, they dont have an opportunity to say they are not that invested in me. …it was not that i didnt want people to attend, i did not send invitations because I was afraid they would say no.

I have been thinking and feeling for people, havent I?!

Wow. that hurts.

This is it. I am wounded that my family doesnt seem to care. …and it isnt about my walking across the stage at graduation… its that they dont call back, they dont respond to my letters…they dont make an effort to understand me or know what is happening. They are not interested in my life. (and, on their behalf, it isnt entirely disinterest, there are many many barriers to communication.)

I understand that they are unable, only, understanding doesnt remove my need for them.

that’s a quandary!

“gosh, thanks for revealing this to me GOD! This pain staking, relationship-ruining process was to reveal a need that I have denied that CANNOT BE MET! What?! Why?!”

…again, I should have never asked the questions!

I have been running from things that threatened to reveal my need.

but a funny thing happened. Being able to acknowledge that i am hurt that my parents do not demonstrate their love for me, enabled me to receive the love that others have been pouring out.

and ultimately, look at other places that I have been avoiding, so as to protect my heart from grave disappointment–like relationships. I have thoroughly avoided thinking about being a wife, about dreaming of who and what and how…. committed nearly to the joys of singleness… but is that really contentment, or is that making the best of the place I keep myself because I am in such bondage I fear considering being vulnerable enough to be rejected, …or received.

what a sad existence I have discovered.

and all this to say, i invited a little old man to my graduation today, and he just blushed. He said he would be honored to come. We’ve been flirting for years; mostly i just smile at him and wave on my way in and out of the cafe. I admonished him two years ago. He was telling me about how he would never tell his children that he forgave them for choosing his wife in their divorce and I just told him he was foolish and that his behavior was hurtful and that they needed him in their lives whether they admitted it or not. that was our first and last real talk, he was so hard. (and I apparently “sensitive”). after that time, he noticed my goings and comings, and i in my embarrassment, have just tried to be kind. Today, he hollered my name as i smiled and waved on the way in, so i went back and sat with him a minute. he said that i was an encouragement to him, and that he has felt loved by me and CV more than anyone else has ever loved him. He asked about graduation, saying he was sad that she and i were both moving on…and then, i invited him to come.

No rejection. What a joy. He just asked if he would have to dress up. haha, i think he must not have many possessions. i just told him that he looked sharp, and that would be perfect.

I bet on the 12th he wears exactly what he is today!

and it reminded me of the feast. The people who were expected to come and demonstrate their love did not, but the others were invited, and they came to celebrate.

I am filled with joy and encouraged that this day will be a celebration of something far greater than my diploma or any accomplishment… far beyond pomp and circumstance!

A celebration of His love.
you are invited

goodness, I have been so sick this week. I lost my voice entirely….this has NEVER happened to me before! Now, I have had a little time to think, being sick there just wasnt much more that i could do. I wasn’t even well enough to attend Easter Services today.

The first thing I noticed was how quiet it is, and how quick I am to speak on any regular occasion. I keep thinking, there must be a spiritual lesson in this somewhere. I usually talk these out with God… but I find myself silenced. Its warming to think that He still hears me. Maybe that is the lesson. Even when I cannot cry out, He still hears me.

It is funny, when I physically wasnt able to do anything, everything stopped. I realized for the first time maybe, that i have a choice in what i do and what i dont do. (of course, it has been several years since i stopped agreeing to do all things asked of me. I know that I can choose what I commit to, but once committed, these things have had a terrible way of taking more of me than I had to give during extenuating circumstances).

I remember vividly the moment that I “agreed” that this wasnt so.

The first time was when my dad was sick; he needed a liver transplant and nearly died several times. I was so pressed with bills and appointments, trying to run his household and my own…I remember saying to my little sister who needed help with her homework, “I just need it all to stop for just a moment so that i can catch up!” (I remember so well, because speaking it to her, demonstrating such need to a child, was a reference point in my life, something changed in my heart) …thinking that I had missed a beat trying to process and was forever a moment behind… & that was exactly what had happened. There are moments, sometimes periods, of life, that are so intense you can either deal or keep going, but both are for Superheroes. I chose to go to work, everyday, and then the hospital in the evenings with my mother and siblings. I didnt deal with the emotion of all of that for many years later, and as a counseling major, I do not regret that choice. My family needed me then, and that was the best I was able to do.

The next time was the morning after something devastating happened in my life. I was 19, new in the church. I hadnt yet figured out what it meant to put God first, or have Him be my everything. Actually He was slowly integrating into each arena of my heart as I learned about who He is. That in itself is something remarkable, but early on I had Him separated out into a neat and tidy “church” category. I had many folders for my life, “private,” “family,” “work,” and “church”…and I kept them all very separate. This worked for me until the church started bleeding into work and family, haha, it was very upsetting at the time –now I cannot imagine living any other way (perhaps because any other way would not really be living, would it?!). Something happened in one category, and they were all so disconnected then, that the people in the other categories, my family, my church, and my friends… they didn’t even notice something had changed for me. & The pressures from work and ministry and family obligations and other’s expectations, they did not stop and let me catch my breath…they kept coming, kept demanding, kept threatening the earth would spin off axis if I let them down.

I wrote in my journal that next day, “If I know nothing else, I know that Monday comes after Sunday and this is unchanging and unrelenting.” I have lived it as truth ever since. It may not make a lot of sense to anyone else, but at the time it was the best I could do to wrap my mind and heart around my need to meet those responsibilities in spite of the devastation I felt and the weak-will within me to press on.

I have believed it as truth, until this afternoon. I am sitting in the dining room of the home I am pet sitting in. There are schoolbooks stacked all around me, and papers I started, but havent finished. I let a lot of people down this week as I cancelled plans, but they understood…i cannot speak! I slept most everyday, and did little to no homework…which is desperate to be done, as I have missed so much class this semester already and intend to miss more with the testing coming up in MD. I need to get a handle on these papers. I do.

…but they waited. They are all still here waiting for me to be well… and so are the people I cancelled on, still here, still waiting. In spite of the threat of the world spinning off axis, I find that at the end of the week, no one has been flung weightlessly into outer space on account of my dropping the ball!

I think this speaks something to the health in relationships that I have now, and certainly to the Lord being the center of my whole life and not just a category being balanced in with others.

& I think, it is time to let go of that old agreement. While it remains true that Monday comes after Sunday and this is unchanging, it no longer seems unrelenting. I think I can allow myself to indulge the freedom in Christ to miss a few Mondays here and there.

Hm, Happy Resurrection Sunday.

Its Thursday, its my busy day. I dont have time to blog, I dont have time to think… Sara Groves is in the kitchen, she is singing about the risks of quiet time with God: “at the risk of wearing out my welcome, at the risk of self discovery, i’ll take every moment, every minute that You’ll give me…”

She makes me think about time with Him and how fleeting it sometimes seems. How present He is and, then, how absent, especially during times of waiting and transition… but, He is truly omnipresent. His presence, I think, it’s like His love.

People say, “God is angry” or “God is disappointed” as if, if He were, it could be contrary to His love, mercy, or grace.

I spent some time with a close friend recently, and shared something with her that has held me hostage for most of my life, a hurtful thing. She responded with embrace; she didnt recoil at the thought, she didnt make me feel silly for my inaction, she didnt dismiss it, or deny the pain of it…and later yet, she shared something with me, something painful, and as she did i noticed my heart change. I didnt feel like she was less worthy of love, but more, and I didnt feel as if she loved me less for either what I shared or what she shared with me, but more…the fellowship deepened our friendship love.

I began to understand that God’s love for us is inalterable. That LOVE is not variable, “love is a permanent bond;” love is not an emotion, and love is not effected by emotions –nothing you could say, or do, or not say, or not do, or feel, or not feel can change love!

& His presence is like His love.

Right now as so many aspects of my life are not only subject to change, but most impending change with graduation coming up so quickly. I am looking for Him in small places…calling His name out in the dark spaces, as if He were lost to me–“God, I need you” spoken into the depths of my clothes closet… and “Father, direct me” underneath the breakfast nook. I am seeking Him as if He were not present here all about me, me in Him, during this time of decision-making. Asking Him about the car and the job and the home without feeling like He is close to me. I am looking for Him in the moment of “this day” as I try to live for “that day.”

Experience tells me that though He has not clearly answered (or I have not chosen to accept His clear answer, as it may be) that He is not absent. This is the paradox of abiding daily. Today, I am acknowledging His presence is as His love is, unwavering.

Professor Baker talked with me about his lunch date today. He met with a friend, just a few years older than himself, who has children leaving his household. His friend talked about how fleeting the time was, how quickly his children grew. Professor Baker’s daughter is only two, there are few years to look back on, but he has an awareness that he too will one day speak of time as his friend does.

&I think abiding must be like that in some ways. The two year old will grow up in spite of Professor Baker. She will develop ideas and thoughts and values both based on his involvement and his lack of involvement… and more, she will physically change into a woman in spite of times that he is available to pour into her and times that he is unavailable… and their relationship will continue because he is her father and she is his daughter and that is unchanging.

So, despite my knowing the answer to my future in “this day” I am His in “that day,” and that is what abiding is.

I am doing well, still up and down physically as always, but
emotionally and spiritually feeling very consistent. There is so much
going on all the time, and I guess I am just learning how to rejoin
life after taking such a back seat at Davis.

I remember when I first got sick and I felt like my world came to a
crashing halt, and then learning about all the quiet things of Him
that I had been missing. & how I grew to know Him and love Him for
slowing me down so that i would know those things were even there!
…Now feeling such a push from Him to speed up again… to take part
again, to be a part again. & so much of my heart screams “STOP! no! I
don’t want to miss You again!” …but He still says, “go boldly!” and
in that, i am learning that His will for me now is not to be stopped
on the road; i need to run the race, but now I have the knowledge and
understanding of the sweetness of resting and walking as my
relationship with Him ebbs and flows as I now know it is supposed to.

It’s scary too. i am graduating in just a few weeks really. i need a
job, and a car, and a place to live. There are so many unknowns
now…it is hard not to worry about them or to just deny them. I feel like i
am right on the edge of…. nothing at all, and it is terribly
exciting!

i’m still here. we didnt leave the hospital until 6 from the 2:30
appointment. I felt heard and understood. more tests scheduled, no
talk of surgery. no answers today.

TT and I went out to dinner, we talked and cried and talked, and it
was good.

i am done.
but good.
thank you for your prayers.

Dear praying friends,

I have an appointment this Wednesday with a leading specialist in
autonomic heart dysfunction at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore,
MD. This is both exciting and scary! I am not sure what to expect, but
hope for a better treatment plan in managing tachycardia.

This is no doubt a wonderful and promising opportunity for me, but
there are some complications with my insurance and it comes at a
difficult point in the semester. I trust the Lord is in control and
His timing is perfect, even when it falls outside of mine. I
appreciate your prayers more than you know, please continue to pray as
you feel led.

You are loved, jhaas

My friend CV posted this to her site:

my friend mentioned this guy named JD Great on her xanga, and when I went to his website this is what I read…

“This is one of those series through which I’ve been profoundly impacted by the things I’ve studied. As I’ve shared a number of times, I am Jacob. And I am grateful for the ways God has wounded me, for, as A.W. Tozer says, “For God to use someone greatly He must first wound them deeply.”

The mark of someone who has really met God is that they limp. It is not until your pride has been shattered, and you’ve really experienced despair and failure, and you have been confronted with your own self-righteousness that you develop the sweet tenderness and grace that marks a true man or woman of God. Before then, you may say you are a sinner saved by grace or that it’s “all about God” but you won’t really believe it. You’ll use your spirituality and ministry skill as a tool for self-exaltation or as a weapon against others, rather than let God flow from you as a healing stream. God’s grace flows most powerfully from our wounds.

We are made to limp physically so we can run spiritually, because it is only those who wait upon the Lord who will have their strength renewed, who will mount up with wings like eagles, who can really run and not be weary, and walk and not faint.

Sigh… I have so far to go in this. But God pursued Jacob, and He’s pursuing me. I thank God where He’s taught me to limp.”

Genesis 32:22-30-
22 That night Jacob got up and took his two wives, his two maidservants and his eleven sons and crossed the ford of the Jabbok. 23 After he had sent them across the stream, he sent over all his possessions. 24 So Jacob was left alone, and a man wrestled with him till daybreak. 25 When the man saw that he could not overpower him, he touched the socket of Jacob’s hip so that his hip was wrenched as he wrestled with the man. 26 Then the man said, “Let me go, for it is daybreak.”
But Jacob replied, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.”
27 The man asked him, “What is your name?”
“Jacob,” he answered.
28 Then the man said, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, but Israel, [e] because you have struggled with God and with men and have overcome.”
29 Jacob said, “Please tell me your name.”
But he replied, “Why do you ask my name?” Then he blessed him there.
30 So Jacob called the place Peniel, [f] saying, “It is because I saw God face to face, and yet my life was spared.”

in response… the more i think about it, the more i believe that we are each wounded already. i know believer and unbeliever limp alike. the difference i believe is how we deal… the unbeliever or the nonbelieving believer, they tend to deny and hide their innate brokenness, put up facades and build walls of self protection… some are so good at this that you cannot even distinguish their limp, but it hurts them even more as they put their full weight on a bad hip and smile thru it. …Believers, those who know Him, surrender this to Him, allow His healing to occur…though the process reveals their brokenness, it also heals it –resulting in sweet tenderness and grace.

He is the difference between the worlds victims and survivors and the Bibles mighty over comers (v28). I think the passage speaks more to our right to ask for blessing in the midst of battle and less that Jacobs hip was wrenched in the process. More to their being a cost to blessing and less to limping. Wow, Christie, i think these verses speak something to the battles we have with the Lord, the ones where we fight Him with our free will and battle him to the point of brokenness, not being bad or wrong or shameful as we feel about them, but rather a part of the process in which we become the new name the Lord has called us into.

I have been reading in Jeremiah…chapter 18 has all but stolen my
heart. funny, i guess, but i feel romanced there, like Jeremiah in his
lament to our Lord. What caught me last night was the brokenness of
the pot in 19.10-11….it is such a contrast from early vs in 18. Even
when the pot is wrecked, as i so often feel, His hand is still on it.
I have been thinking a lot about focusing on the warmth of His hand in
this process rather than the uncertainty of the situation….trusting
that the wreck of me is purposed and intended for something beautiful
in His sight…even though I cannot, and may not ever, be able to see
it myself.

the pot in 19 is thrown from his hand, because its hardened in
unacknowledged and unrepentant sin, and so it shatters when He throws
it. But that describes neither you nor me. …yes, I am sinful, even
willfully sinning, but my heart is grieved over it in the softness
that comes from His living water and touch. that i cannot deny. i am
beginning to intellectualize the possibility that the brokenness i
feel is an impossibility. what do you think of that? am i a heretic?

The most wonderful thing happened. I was in a meeting here at school and the group was discussing a need and I said I think I can arrange that. I wrote a letter to an out of state acquaintance, expressed the need…and presto….just like that it was met–and bigger and better than I had even hoped for.

I feel so grown up, so networked, so graced.

God! He is amazing